How does your family decide on teenage privileges and responsibilities? Have you ever wished for a standard to help you make those decisions? The following guidelines are designed just for that purpose.

1. When your child receives an invitation to a party, tell him/her that you intend to call the host parent to determine whether there will be parental supervision and if alcoholic beverages will be served. Be sure to follow through on these plans.
2. When you are comfortable with the party plans, including transportation arrangements, only then give your consent for the child to attend the party. Be sure to know when the party ends and when your child will be home.
3. Make it easy for your child to leave any party or situation where there is drinking or other drug use. You should discuss this in advance. If, for any reason, your child wishes to leave the party early or has a change in plans, he/she should be able to call you or another designated adult for assistance.
4. Make it easy for your child to talk to you when arriving home. Being up and available when your child comes home encourages communication and could alert you to a potential problem. Set an alarm for yourself, if necessary.

1. Check your child's guest list and party plans. Suggest changes if necessary, but try to be tactful.
2. Set specific beginning and ending times for the party. Have planned activities.
3. Set ground rules that are clearly understood by both you and your child in advance. These include:
   • No alcohol or drugs
   • No smoking
   • No leaving the party and then returning
   • Limit the party to appropriate areas of your house
4. Reconcile your child's plans for the party with your own standards. Don't compromise your standards but be understanding of your child's feelings.
5. Invite parents of guests to help with the chaperoning. Make yourself and other chaperones visible at the party. Introduce yourselves to the guests. Don't hide in another room. Be Seen!

Five A’s for Parents